god is in the details.
i had lunch with my dear friend steven today.
he thinks my life should be made into a movie: the story of a twenty-three year old woman trying to find love in the big apple. the twist being this twenty-three year old acts as though she's forty-five.
example: camera cuts to subway. lead reading book. book is "How to Begin Your Life Again!"
essentially the film would be a combination of two of the most common stories found in films, 1. young girl falls in love for first time; 2. middle age woman finds love again after life falls apart
does this make sense so far?
i know, i know. it needs some work.
but this is all to say...we were brainstorming real life details that make my life quite...well, interesting. like the time i fell down the subway steps and spent a month doing everything i could to stop myself from laughing or sneezing. or...the time i went for drinks at the Ritz unwittingly carrying with me a renegade laundry sock.
or like today...
when i discovered i live next to a male whorehouse.
hmm. hmm. hmm. mmmm.
i need your help (or at least your questions)
in blogging
inspired by this post by the remarkable kathleen and then again after reading a blog about how to make one's blog better (and goodness knows, that i do want that), i have decided to do a post about me to provide some background to new and old readers alike.
and i thought...well, if there's anything you want to know. ask me. and so your questions will be my launching pad.
this is my way of saying: ask away, i'm an open book (for the most part).
post-secret follow up
I thought the end of Ned would be like getting hit by a dump truck, in the best possible way.
It would be a moment--one, single moment--that would knock me on my ass (or damn near kill me {as long as we're going with the dump truck metaphor}) and literally change my life forever. That was the best-case-scenario--that was what I prayed for.
I'm starting to think it's not going to be anything like that. I'm starting to think it's happening now. And will take a very, very long time. A life, if you will. But it will not be my life--it will simply be one part of it. The end of Ned is a gradual coming to--an ascent into consciousness, the compilation of countless near-obvious realizations.
And I'm starting to think that this whole Ned thing...well, maybe there's a reason it's happened--happening.
For those of you who've read The Time Traveler's Wife, do you remember the scene where (bear with me I've loaned the book out so I have to paraphrase) Clare at twenty has just begun dating Henry. And they're at some club and she wanders off to go to the bathroom and runs into Henry of the future (the Henry she's known all her life--the Henry she grew up with) and she says to him, I miss you, I wish you were the one who was here right now--I don't know this other person. And in return he says, but who you are--this time you spend with the twenty-eight year old Henry is what makes me who I am today--the man you do love so much. I need you Clare. Do you remember this part? I'm absolutely butchering the poetry of it all but I'm just trying to make a point.
Well, for better of for worse Ned is shaping me. He has made me who I am today. And he is creating the woman my Henry will one day fall in love with. Yes, there was a time when Ned made me unbelievably selfish, unbelievably unreliable and unbelievably unkind. But that time has passed. And for the first time in my life I'm beginning to think that I am, actually, quite strong.
Now, let's be clear, I am not romanticizing Ned. Ned is bad. Very, very bad. I wouldn't wish Ned on anyone. Ned robbed me of whole years of my life--countless would-be memories. But I am making the choice to be thankful for how I am now responding to
So, remember this post? Well, my post-secret really was what was written on the card, but there was more--I promised you more and I never delivered on it.
Well, okay, here goes:
About a month ago I decided to stop acting. Not for a long. Just a year. Maybe two. I was having a near impossible time reconciling Ned with the audition process. And I knew as long as Ned is an ever present force in the room with me, I'll never be able to give it a proper go. And I want to give acting a proper go. But I need acting to be my decision. I need to come to it when I am ready--not simply because it's the next step on some pre-prescribed path.
I think I scared my parents. I think they're afraid I won't go back. What I tried to explain to them is I will. That in my gut I believe this is actually the best decision I can make for the future.
And so now I have a year to fail brilliantly and make impossible mistakes. And all I want to do is travel. I have nothing tying me down, so what better time is there?
So I'm looking into teaching English abroad and while I've surreptitiously gathered information from a few of you (thanks girls!), if anyone else cares to weigh in on the subject...well, by all means.
Phew, now that I've gotten all of that out of my system, maybe words will come a bit easier now.
I've had nothing to say of late.
I'm sorry.
Actually, I think...I've had one thing that I haven't been able to say.
And that one thing has led to everything.
And everything is overwhelming so now I'm grasping for anything.
And left with nothing.
But nothing is never nothing. It is always something. And something is a place to begin...
meaning? more to come..
i've been holding out.
and that's not fair.