Green-Wood in shades of white and blue.

When I lived way up north in Manhattan visiting Fort Tryon Park after a snowstorm was one of my absolute favorite things to do. This go round, knowing that Fort Tryon was on the other end of a subway ride I didn't want to take, I thought, what is the Brooklyn equivalent? Where can I go that the snow will still be untouched and lovely and the world, draped in all that white, will breathe differently?

So off to Green-Wood Cemetery I trudged. And catching it as the blue hour fell was quite the sight for my weary eyes.

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On what to give up for Lent...

last night i found myself at a small downtown club listening to some really fine new orleans tunes--dueling trumpets, rich and broken voices. organized, beautiful chaos.

and there was a moment when la cucaracha came spitting out of one of the horns and i had this very clear memory of how as i child my father would pull me from the shower and towel me off as he sang that ridiculous song. and i'd forgotten. and how could i forget that? and what other memories have too long sat on a shelf somewhere?

standing in the too crowded space just before the stage i turned to this lovely man who i'm just now friends with--this person who barely knows me--and i said, if this tuesday is already fat tuesday then i must think of something to give up for lent immediately.

and before the words were even out of my mouth, he looked right at me and said, how about self-doubt? 

and god how that question literally took the air from my body. few times in my life have such simple and elegant and wholly true things been said. and he barely knows me. and so how did he know that?

i thought i'd gotten good at faking it, you know?

i felt so exposed in that moment. so seen and not, all at once.

self-doubt.

how about self-doubt? divinity mostly arrives in unusual forms.

BOSTON | in love with color

I am utterly in love with Boston--helpless against its many charms. Mostly the color.
The city is knee-deep in color. Vibrant and rich hues--red brick everywhere and copper pipes. And every time I visit the city woos me just a bit more and I leave ever more reluctantly.

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and last time I  was in Boston...

i saw my brother taste Ben & Jerry's 
for the very first time.

and had a heart to heart on a park bench 
about my romantic bent. 

I don't think it was really like prom at all...it was better.

Just the other day I said to someone, I didn't make a lot of mistakes when I was young, I've got some free passes I need to cash in. 

Which isn't true of course, I made big mistakes. Life-altering mistakes. The sort of mistakes that when someone asks you how you came to figure this-or-that out and you say the school of hard knocks and they say no, that can't be right, you're too young, they are both right and wrong--age being a funny and deceptive thing--not nearly as linear as we'd like to believe.

It's just that, when I was young, I didn't drink too much or stay out too late or follow the wrong men home. I didn't do what others would perceive as foolish and messy.

My mess was a private sort of thing.

But with age and a little knowledge there is some real joy to be found in making those mistakes now.

I doubt my Saturday night was anything like a typical prom. I got ready sitting in front of my brother's microwave and doing my hair in its reflection (of all the places in his apartment it was the best mirror, with the best lighting). We went to dinner early, followed by drinks and pictures in a friend's apartment before heading to the Fairmont.

I got drunk very early in the night. Which, I must tell you, while not calculated, worked brilliantly. While everyone still had their wits about them, I seemed very fun. It also meant, I drank mostly water 10 pm and on and so awoke without a hangover.

There was much dancing and laughing and a fair amount of shenanigans at the ball (prom)--we may very well have been the only group with a to-do list that included icing people, getting rejected by better looking members of the opposite sex (more attractive as voted on by 70% of the group), and making it rain $2 bills (this sadly did not happen...something for next time).

It was at two-thirty in the morning when I found myself trailing behind my brother and his group of friends up a steep hill at the back end of Beacon Hill, four boxes of large pizzas, our finest dress clothes in various stages of disarray, and I had the thought: this is youth. This is something like youth. 

It was one of those moments where the image is so clear: a group of friends trekking up a hill as the night lightly sifts out snow, and the only sound are heels on cobblestone and the sort of laughter born of comfortable friendships and too much wine. An image of youth. A tableau of youth. One of those moments that as it's happening you find yourself mentally crossing it off life's to-do list, not even knowing it was on there until you stumbled into it.

Youth and follies and time. And none of it linear.

Stumbling home through the snow, too late, and with a group of near-strangers-now-friends--god, I can only hope more of life unfolds with as much mess and grace as that moment.

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